Making Your Grief Useful  

Grief. Grieving. What’s the difference? Grief is to grieving as the eye is to seeing, as the ear is to hearing. Think of grief as an invisible organ of perception. Think of the difference between grief and grieving as the difference between what a person is and what a person does. Grief is a partContinue reading “Making Your Grief Useful  “

Griever, Know Thyself

Self-awareness. As adults, there’s no getting around it. You can try, of course, and many of us die trying. So it may be tempting to move speedily through this holiday season without pausing to consider the ins and outs of your intimate relationship with grief. There’s no crime in that if it works for you.Continue reading “Griever, Know Thyself”

Defining Grief on Your Own Terms

Before you know how to heal your grief, you have to get to know the grief that is yours to heal. Put simply, grief is the spontaneous suffering you experience when you are subject to a real or imagined loss of someone or something you greatly value or cherish. But what makes grief so difficultContinue reading “Defining Grief on Your Own Terms”

Living With Your Grief

Physical death is often regarded as the ultimate grief-striking loss – the common denominator of our species. But death is hardly the most common loss we humans endure. Some of us make it all the way to middle age without experiencing the death of an intimate or seriously contemplating the inevitability of our own physicalContinue reading “Living With Your Grief”

New Way of “Doing Grief” Is a Life-Changer

When readers tell me that my new book, Doing Grief in Real Life, changed their life, I believe them. The book was written during a decade-long period of loss and grief unlike any my family had known. The pain was so thick some days, we wondered if joy or lightheartedness would ever come again. MyContinue reading “New Way of “Doing Grief” Is a Life-Changer”